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Worn to a Frazzle

February 7th, 2018 at 04:33 pm

First the good news. My parents are receiving a very large tax return and have graciously decided to give us a gift large enough to cover the entire HVAC bill!

That means I only need to come up with $350 more to cover paying the drywall finisher. Which I will have in March from our "extra" paycheck. It will be so nice to be caught up and only have our normal bills.

Now for good (I guess?) but not so fun part. I've been working a lot of hours at my web design job. Yay for money! But I've also been trucking on the house every single day, and my secretary job is crazy busy. I'm getting really burnt/worn out with everything.

Here is my current schedule:
Monday, Tuesday, & Thursday I get up early and work on web design until noon. Then my dad comes over and we work on the house until 5. At which time my husband gets home and we cook dinner, feed animals, and then work on the house again until usually 10pm.

Wednesday I work all day at my secretary job until about 8pm except for a short break to run home and feed animals and then come home and work on the house until bed.

Friday's I work all day and then we go grocery shopping/run errands, get home around 9 after which is our "time off."

Saturday and Sunday we work on the house all day...

As you can see there isn't much time for sleeping, relaxing, friends, etc. Both jobs have been crazy busy, and I have been having to bring home secretary work to finish at night to keep up. And as if I didn't have enough to do my boss told me today I need to start working on Tuesdays again for a while. UGH!

I keep telling myself this is only temporary but goodness I can't do this much longer. I am driven to work hard on the house to finish. But I am getting quite sour about my real jobs. Especially my secretary job which contributes the most frustration/stress and rewards the least. I hope I can get through the next two months.

11 Responses to “Worn to a Frazzle ”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Oh my that doesn't sound sustainable. I realize it will end at some point, but any chance you could take just one whole Saturday off from working on the house. I know your motivated to do that work, but if it is impacting you so much you really should find a place to give. The house likely doesn't have a true deadline, it's one you have self imposed on yourselves. How is your husband handling it?

  2. Carol Says:

    Please give yourself a few more breaks! It doesn't serve anyone if you get sick.(That's how my body used to tell me to slow down.)

  3. PatientSaver Says:

    Yes, you sound very busy. Hang in there I'll be so glad when the house is done.

  4. klarose Says:

    Honestly I sort of "enjoy" working on the house. Well at least you can see an end in sight and have something to work towards. It is tangible and feels like I am doing something for me.

    My secretary job on the other hand is wearing me thin. Boss has been piling on way too many side projects that he should be finding volunteers for. Normally I deal okay with extras, but right it's just too much. Such as I have to go home and do a flyer for his kid's school fundraiser... That has nothing to do with my job. If anyone remembers this is the job that I've been doing for 5+ years and I quit previously for a year because I was overworked. It is half the pay of my web design job, and honestly my lowest priority. Why should I take time off of my better paying and more liked more job and my house to work more at a nearly minimum wage job... It's just not right. Unfortunately my boss didn't give me an option. He doesn't really care. Husband is wanting me to quit again but I can't until our house is finished and our finances are settled down. It is probably time for a heart to heart talk with boss about expectations.

  5. snafu Says:

    Is this the same boss who wanted so much from you for so little, it drove you to finally leave? Perhaps he's forgotten his pledge that brought you back. You can only do a day's work in a day. 60 minutes in an hour, no matter what the pay, you can't extend the hour to 80 minutes. You have no SuperWoman's out of this world's power.

    There is no joy in taking work home as there is already work waiting for you at home. You cannot take on one more duty, one more phone call, nor one more request. Yes, those things need to be someone else. Sometimes money is not the answer.
    Wish you well, stay healthy

  6. creditcardfree Says:

    Yep, your husband is right. It's time to quit. I'd even take on credit card debt instead of put myself in that situation, if that's what it would take for sanity in your situation. You should not be doing that fundraiser flyer on your down time, let alone at all since it is not a church activity. Your boss is rolling over you (and probably others in other ways) and you are allowing it to happen. Be strong...this is not about money, but the integrity of your soul. Do not let another human mistreat you!! Wishing you well. I'm glad you are enjoying the house projects!!

  7. Bluebird Says:

    I agree with the others' comments about the secretarial job. Do only what you can during work hours, without killing yourself. He's not going to fire you, he needs you. And if he does fire you, so what. Please put your foot down with this guy, it's ridiculous and you're being taken advantage of.

  8. frugaltexan75 Says:

    It sounds like your boss is showing you who he is - is your health worth staying in a job where you're not respected?

  9. klarose Says:

    Thanks for the support guys. He doesn't mean to be mean, but He is very committed to his job. His life revolves around it. He doesn't understand that my life DOESN'T revolve around the job and I am not willing to make it my number one priority. He won't fire me because the place literally fell apart last time I left because no one could do as much as I do, or could put up with his demands. I put my foot down and told him again that I will not be working on Tuesdays. End of story. Whew. If he keeps pushing for more I'm just going to have to tell him to find someone else to do his side projects. It can't be me. He needs to realize that he is pushing me away again and if he continues to stress me out I will be quitting asap. Another good reason to get the house done, I don't want to be a slave to a job.

  10. snafu Says:

    I'm so happy to see your willingness to accept our suggestions. It is our intent to offer suggestions that are in your best interests. Your boss needs to hear and understand there are boundaries and that you will not be able to continue working there if he increases volume of work beyond the original agreement. Yes the added work must be someone else.

  11. rob62521 Says:

    Wow, you are really working hard. Please take care of yourself.

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