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Burnout Blues

August 3rd, 2016 at 01:12 pm

Still feeling the burnout blues. The more I think about how it will be years before I am able to work less the more depressing it gets. :/

Husband is having a hard time at his job too. In the past week or so nearly everyone he is friends with quit for various reasons. He's suddenly lonely and also feeling like it's a dead end job. It pays pretty good, but it's not fulfilling work. Jobs are so limited where we live though, he can't seem to find anything he is interested in. He says he wants his job to make a difference, or help people.

I know everyone gets tired of working occasionally, but It's hard right now. Especially since it is hitting both of us at the same time. Ugh.

Mortgage payment hit, bringing the total down to $46,593.39.

That seems like a huge amount that will never be paid and I'll be a slave to the work force forever.

How do you guys get through burnout?

8 Responses to “Burnout Blues”

  1. Petunia 100 Says:

    I get through it by focusing on a goal. Also, it helps if you enjoy the work you do.

    Since you are both feeling burnt out, maybe planning a fun weekend will help revive you both?

    I think your mortgage is tiny. Smile

  2. ceejay74 Says:

    I sometimes evaluate all the things that are competing for my time and attention, and see if there are any I can cut or scale back on. Sometimes it's quitting a volunteer activity or planning a week of low-effort meals.

    Your mortgage debt is about 10% of mine! How's that to cheer you up? Wink

  3. ThriftoRama Says:

    We all go through this. I'm 41 and I wish I could say burn out was a one-time thing. Think of this as your re-evaluation time. Burn out is a sign you might need to shift into a lower gear for a while and reprioritize.

    As for your mortgage, it's not insurmountable. We just paid ours off, and not too long ago it seemed so big and impossible. All you can do is keep plugging away. Little bits of extra to the principal here and there really do add up.

    As for jobs/fulfillment. Jobs are about getting a check. Keep getting that check. If you need to feel fulfilled and make a difference, find a charity to support in your off hours. Or, have coworkers help you support that charity. (i.e. we coordinate a school supply drive for the kids at the homeless shelter. we also have a soup kit assembly day for the local food bank. Win win).

  4. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    Depends on what your priorities are. On MMM forum and ER, there are two different ways. Those who power through and get it done to Early Retirement. And those who meander there and get to retire early but not super early. Usually those who meander take sabbaticals or vacations from working (that's us). It turns out that it was important to us and so it set back "Financially Independent Early Retirement" by 1 year and we're okay with that.

    Decide and make a goal and work towards accomplishing it. If it's burnout then perhaps cut back on saving and make some spending a priorities. Also decide if what you do is important to you. What will it take to change careers or do something different. Ask questions and make a plan to change jobs or careers if it's important to you. If you aren't happy doing what you are doing then maybe it's time for a switch.

    I'm sure it seems like I'm all talk. But seriously we've BTDT and have the T-shirt. It's not easy but it can help you figure out what you want out of life. I am happy just moving. DH is THRILLED with his new job. So it's up to you. You don't have kids so you have time at night to sit, talk, and think. Use it to find out what is your zen.

  5. PatientSaver Says:

    Actually, $46K left on the mortgage doesn't seem like that much to me. Do you ever make extra payments on it to chip it down faster? That's what I did.

    I would remind your husband of all the good things his "pretty good" paycheck brings you, not just the money to pay the bills, but the health benefits, too, and paid vacation. Having been laid off more times than I can count, I would just urge him to buckle down and find other ways toward fulfillment if not through the job. Not everyone can have a job that is personally fulfilling..sometimes you have to find that for yourself.

    Like the old song/saying goes, you don't always appreciate what you have until it's gone.

  6. snafu Says:

    Teachers suffer burn out regularly, it's part of the profession. The only thing that helps in this household is some type of physical activity. It doesn't mater if it's a brisk walk, tai chai from a disc, bike ride, time in a gym or skipping rope! Anything demanding physical activity helps mood [but delays chores]. If you can do minimalist for a few months, the house is ok. The mantra is... don't put it down, put it away.

  7. rob62521 Says:

    Hang in there. Sometimes you just get tired. As many others have said, think of how great that paycheck is. No job is perfect. There is good and bad to each one. If you don't think you are making a difference, then use some of that paycheck to help someone else out, even if it is a small amount. For example, we have a homeless day center. On these hot days, they request cases of water. A couple of bucks for a case a water goes a long way to making a difference to someone who doesn't have a home and a tap to get water.

    As Snafu pointed out, exercise can lift one's spirits. I never would have believed that, but I am truly a believer of that. I exercise regularly and it does make a huge difference.

    One thing I do that used to drive my husband crazy, is I move stuff around in the house. Sometimes it is just simply like some photographs. Sometimes it is a piece of furniture. But it gives me a different perspective and I see things in a different light when I feel like things are in a rut. I explained to DH when I move things around it makes it look new to me and I'm not tempted to go and buy something I don't really need.

    I'm sure that mortgage seems like a lot, but fortunately you don't have to pay it off in two are making an investment in yourselves by buying some place you want to live.

  8. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    Your mortgage is less than half of mine, and I just started paying on ours! So it's gonna be a long ride.

    I understand burnout. When I was single and had had enough of teaching, I was able to double down and save a bunch of money which gave me the financial wherewithal to quit and withstand over eight months of no real employment,,several moves, and helping out a family member. (All this about the time I joined SA!) I had options though because I was single and not tied to an area.

    If I was teaching again and faced burnout again, I think I would do what I could to separate work life from real life. Easier said than done, I know. Maybe loosen the budget a little to give some space for time away. Even if it means that some of your other goals will take a little longer to achieve - it may be better to do so in order to refresh and avoid burnout - which could have long term consequences to goals and plans.

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