Well the good news is that the vet called me this morning and said they loved working with me, and that I'm hired!!! 
I start tomorrow.
The tough news is that while I was on the phone with the vet my old job called... Apparently their secretary quit this morning, and the pastor was calling to beg me back again. I feel just horrible. For those who don't know, I worked for my church for 3.5 years, and quit in January to pursue Web Design. It did have it's perks. I worked mostly alone, and I could take off whenever, or leave early, surf facebook, etc. But it was a very stressful job, 5 days a week, with only 30 hours, 2 days were split shifts. They would call me at night, I would have to come in on weekends, lots of responsibility, and last minute emergencies, etc. They have been struggling to find a replacement ever since then, and I've been asked dozens of times to come back.
I had to tell him that I just accepted a new job offer, and I'm sure he is hurt since I don't want their job but I took another... It was just too much for me to handle all the stress and days and do the web design. The vet job is only 2 or 3 days a week, and it's over after my 5 hour shift. No stress no mess.
Now he is trying to offer me just working a day or two, and a significant pay raise. Ugh.
I feel guilty. I see these people several times a week, and they are really struggling. He says no pressure, but he was practically crying and asking what he could do to change my mind. And it's apparent they are falling apart and need my help. So while there is no "pressure" there is a LOT of implied pressure.
I will talk to my husband, but he is going to say no way. I have to agree, I don't think I want to take on 3 jobs, even if it is only 1 day a week.
But we will see. I think I need to try out the vet job and see how I handle that before I tack on any additional work. But it's hard to turn down a friend that really needs my help. It's so hard to stand strong, especially when I get asked by numerous well meaning people every week. When it's all going down the crapper everyone looks at me to fix it. I guess I should feel honored since I excelled at my job, but it puts a lot of burden on me.
Job News and a Tough Decision
October 20th, 2015 at 04:24 pm
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October 20th, 2015 at 04:39 pm 1445359184
They did eliminate some of the demands for the last person that just quit. She wasn't required to come to any of the services. Which took her down to only 4 days a week, and no split shifts or weekends. But apparently it was still too much. Although she seemed like a pretty lazy and incompetent worker. I think most people could handle it.
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October 20th, 2015 at 05:18 pm 1445361520
Jokeabee laid it out so well. I recall your being so upset with the demands of the church job that you wrote it affected your ability to sleep. While the Pastor likely has the best of intentions, the job will ultimately demand more hours, split shifts, weekends, evening call backs, stressful phone calls, unpleasant congregants and all the other irritants that made your replacement quit. With winter coming, how many miles of scary driving conditions and what will that cost?
October 20th, 2015 at 05:23 pm 1445361806
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October 20th, 2015 at 09:41 pm 1445377310
But I think creditcardfree is spot on. I do not want the job. It doesn't make me feel good, and I agree that no one should do something they are quilted or coerced into doing. They are trying to force me into doing it, without really caring about how I feel. I understand they are in a tight spot. But there are a lot of other people in the church that could/should step up, instead of putting it all on me like it's my fault things are falling apart.
October 21st, 2015 at 12:00 am 1445385602
Congrats on the vet job!
October 21st, 2015 at 01:19 am 1445390361
I have a friend and neighbor who also works as an accountant and a lot of other things for a Jewish synagogue, and it's the same story i hear from her about the crazy demands, low pay and long hours. Apparently, religious organization are not above squeezing everything they can out of their employees.