My boss has tried everything in his power to get me to stay.

He cried during the meeting we had yesterday to discuss finding a replacement.

Today he was wanting to know if my new employer was legit, and if they would treat me fairly, etc. Telling me to be careful.

I'm touched that I'm so appreciated. But at the same time. Give it a rest man. Be happy for me.

Our church had a bad breakup about a year or two ago and it was really rough. Lots of people turned on the Pastor, many hurt feelings, half the church left, etc. We have recovered, but I think he is still raw.

I think he feels like I am personally abandoning him. (The last Secretary had a big involvement with the upset.) So I've been reassuring him that I'm not leaving because of something he did, or because I'm upset. I've just found a good opportunity, and I want to move into the next step of my life. It's nothing personal.

I've stayed strong. But it's hard. He is like a father figure to me. Very personal relationship. Heck, I used to babysit his kids, the oldest of whom is now in highschool. He was my references for all my previous jobs.

I'm still also stressed about the friend's wedding. But I am trying to relax. I think I've made my decision to go on the vacation as planned. I can't move mountains because of her whims. She has got to have some consequences. I'm still brewing though. I don't need to decide 100% today.