Gah! I'm about to strangle my best friend.
She is getting married in less than 8 weeks. She is in another country right now, and can never make up her mind on anything and it is making me crazy. She hasn't gotten anything planned out yet!
She told me last Friday that she wanted me to make the invitations and send them out by the following Monday. She also finally picked the wedding colors, so I needed to go order my bridesmaid dress. Well I go to the store and there is only 1 dress that will come in, in time for the wedding. (They are suppose to be ordered at least 4 months in advance) So I had to get that one. It was $150. I purchase the invitations. Then the next day she says, never-mind I don't need you to make the invitations. Oh and by the way, we might end up getting married here instead, (other country) AKA you don't need your dress. Well they don't accept returns, so I thought I was out nearly $200 after the dress and invitations.
Well now she moved it back to the states. They had the date set for December 13th. Then last week they changed it to Jan 3rd, whatever that is fine. Well now she has changed it again to Dec. 20th. The ONE SATURDAY in the entire year that I told her I couldn't be there!
My family has had a vacation planned for that date for over a year now. The entire family is meeting together, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, for the first time in years. The week can't be changed. Flights are booked, etc.
So now basically I either have to skip her wedding, or cancel our vacation. My husband and my parents have really been looking forward to it. They are all mad at me, and want me to skip her wedding.
I tried to get them to go on vacation Tues - Fri instead of the originally planned Thus - Sun (Rest of the family will be there all week.) But then husband has to take off 2 additional days, which he doesn't have enough vacation time for, and that leaves him with no vacation hours until they roll over in July. Plus then I will have to take off more days.
Everyone is upset at ME, and I don't know what to do. I don't need this stress. I don't want to miss my best friend's wedding, but I also don't want to skip my family vacation, and also make my husband and parents miss out.
Still trying to work out how to get our dates changed. But I'm not sure if it is going to happen. I may have to choose.
Advice?
Friend is Stressing Me Out!
November 4th, 2014 at 05:56 pm
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And I thought she might change her mind again, but apparently they have already booked flights, so it's settled.
The only people who would have to rearranged schedules is my parents, and my husband and I if we go earlier in the week. The rest of the family will be there the entire time I think, so they don't care when we come. I think I will sit on it a week and make my decision. I was so looking forward to vacation, but I also was looking forward to her wedding. She was my Maid of Honor.
She is very rude, and often changes our plans, cancels on me, borrows money and doesn't pay me back, etc. She treats me like a doormat, but her entire family is like that. She is still my best friend. I kind of feel like not going, just to show her that there are consequences when she pulls this crap on me. But at the same time. Both of her and her fiance's families are feuding, and she is terribly upset, and everyone is mad at her. So I feel like I'm her only shoulder to lean on at the time. No one is supporting the international marriage, just because of the hate of different cultures.
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November 4th, 2014 at 07:29 pm 1415129355
Will she live in her fiancé's country, or will he live here?
November 4th, 2014 at 07:48 pm 1415130513
Sorry to be so blunt...Bridezilla's wedding will be what it is based on her own effort and the manipulation she is able to impose on others. I'd plead with the shop to take back the $ 150 dress as well as the vendor who sold you the invitation supplies. This gal could change date, colours, venue, country etc between today and December 20th. As an outsider, if you have e-mail or text or some type of tangible evidence that she instructed/requested you buy stuff for her wedding, you should be reimbursed for costs. This friendship is a one way relationship, you give and she receives...yes?
November 4th, 2014 at 07:58 pm 1415131082
She will be living in a completely different country for a year, then moving back to groom's home country. (They are both world travelers, and fickle so who honestly knows where they will live.) Her mind changes more often than the wind, so I honestly doubt anything she says. Sad but true.
And yes, it is a very one way relationship. Always has been.
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I'm stressed now reading about your friend.
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