I had written up a long post days ago and it got deleted and I didn't feel like retyping it all again, so here is the short version.
Car maintenance is done. $552 later. Ouch. Thankfully I have $375 put back for this, and I should have the rest when I get paid on Tuesday. So I'm glad it's over and taken care of.
HVAC guy came out to discuss plans for the addition. After some thought he is urging us to purchase a NEW upflow furnace that we can place in the basement rather than move our new downflow furnace to the addition and have to put it in the master closet. What a bummer to have to replace a furnace that is less than a year old. We knew this was going to cause problems when we bought it but we didn't have another choice at the time. Thankfully he has agreed to buy it back (not at full price) or we can try to sell the old "new" one ourselves. We might loose a thousand or two but we will save in labor costs and also gain more square footage in the addition. So I think it's worth it. He is going to run the numbers and see what the price difference is and then we will decide. Honestly the furnace saved us $1,500 in propane bills last year. So it has already paid for half of it's self. lol.
We are having a hard time deciding what we should prioritize with the addition. I REALLY want to replace all the siding. It's going to look funny to only have one side of the house redone and half of the front, and I worry about leaks where the old and new meet. But to redo all of it is going to be nearly $12,000 more. Which we do not have. Might have to think about this some more, and see if there is something we can cut instead. Might be worth it to wait on finishing the interior, to get all of the exterior done. Thoughts?
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I had written up a long post days ago and it got deleted and I didn't feel like retyping it all again, so here is the short version.
So the nice contractor got back with me, with an estimate!
It's way over our budget. But then I noticed a number that looked weird and I asked about it, and he realized he had accidentally figured the numbers on a 28' x 30' addition rather than the planned 14' x 30'!
So now I have numbers, but they aren't the right ones... lol. But at least this gives us a starting place. Poor guy, I feel really bad that he has to re-figure everything. The total is not going to drop in half because some costs won't change, but I am hoping the estimate will go down by at least 1/3.
But for now, I will share what numbers he gave me. Keep in mind this is for double the size we are actually wanting.
Concrete - $13,600
Excavation - $900
Framing - $13,879
Roofing - $2,874
Electric - $3,256
Lights/Fans - $600
Plumbing - $2,972
Shower - $4,768
Tub - $1,000
Faucets - $600
Vanity - $450
Insulation - $1,222
Sheetrock - $3424
Taping & Painting - $4,650
Doors & Trim - $2,188
Flooring - $4,800
Closet Shelving - $350
Addition Siding - $6,275
Existing House Siding - $11,528
Stairwell Drywall - $1,250
Repair Sill Plate - $500
New Flat Roofing - $2,010
Total $83, 446
This is not counting windows or HVAC which I am guessing to be around $10,000 but I haven't gotten recent estimates yet.
This includes doing some other projects on the house such as reroofing our flat roof, running a new water line to the barn, residing the entire house, replacing all the windows, new duct work for entire house, drywalling stairwell, etc.
Obviously we can't afford that, but if we can get it down by 1/3, and not do the siding we are getting pretty close to our target range of $40k-$45k. We can whittle down by doing some of the work ourselves such as the painting, electric, trim, etc and choosing cheaper finishes. (He aimed high)
We are getting excited that this may actually be a reality!
Okay, I'm late but here is my list anyway.
1. I'm younger than 25.
2. I've been married for 4 years next month, started dating nearly 9 years ago.
3. My husband is the only person I dated and vice versa. Regardless of common stereotypes we have a very happy marriage, and do everything together. (Honestly in 9 years we have rarely/if ever fought about anything, and never raised voices.)
4. I have had 5 heart surgeries and 2 lung surgeries.
5. I have a pacemaker.
6. I have a rare lung disease called Plastic Bronchitis, which has a nearly 50% mortality rate.
7. I'm a web designer.
8. I love animals a LOT.
9. I always ask for power tools for holidays.
10. I love to build things.
11. I play a lot of video games.
12. I have a ridiculous attachment to my pets.
13. I really don't have any close friends.
14. I never clean my car.
15. I'm the world's cheapest traveler.
16. I don't own any makeup or jewelry except my wedding ring.
17. I don't really like kids.
18. I'm a worrier and a busybee.
19. I've never got anything but A's throughout school including college.
20. I was homeschooled 6th - 12th grade.
Here are some very random facts for you.
Well I have pneumonia yet again. I was gradually declining for a past month or so. But then it just dropped, I felt so sick for several days including during sister in laws shower. Ugh. But thankfully I can read the signs and started on antibiotics as soon as I felt it turning for the worse. It's always a struggle to take antibiotics. I'm getting resistant to them, so I really try to not take them if I can. But when I'm running a high fever, very weak, and have severe chest pain it's not safe it go without anymore. Thankfully my doctor is a family friend who I can talk to, and she can call in medicine for me on the weekends if she thinks it's important.
Slowly starting to feel better. So glad I didn't have to go to the hospital again.
Hoping to set up the appointment for my car next week. Want to get it done.
I seen everyone's list. How fun! I think it's too late for mine though. But I enjoyed reading everyone else's.
Well I got the washer all paid off, and 6 months worth of car insurance. All caught up! Whew.
And then I went to the hospital to inquire about the bill I received 9 months after my hospital visit. They told me there was some mixups with the insurance company that just now got ironed out so that is why the bill was so late. Yes I do owe it, and no I do not quality for a bill reduction or assistance.
Sooo now I have a $1,860 debt. Hiss. They only do payment plans up to 6 months, so that is $300 a month. I went ahead and put $300 on my credit card for the first payment.
BUT, if I pay the bill in full within 30 days they will take off 10%. So if I can scrounge up $1,374 this month that will save me $186. Hmm.
I will probably just put back as much cash as I can, then before the 30 days is up I will charge it all to my credit card. Then I will have until the statement balance is due to pay. No way I will be able to come up with the full amount, so I will just take from our savings and pay it off, and then I'll have to spend the next several months paying myself back. I hate that. That is all money that could be paying off the LOC instead. Oh well. I wouldn't have went if it wasn't life or death, and you can't put a price on that.
Also, I've got an estimate for changing the timing belt on my car. $514. Ouch. That also needs done this month. It's going to be a super tight budget for a while.
I've requested to go home early today from my office job. I worked a very hard and long week, and I have so much work with my design job to catch up on it's unreal.
The second guy came out to look at the house. He was very rude! He talked down to me because I was a woman, and only wanted to speak/listen to husband. He also set up an appointment which husband and I asked off work for, and then he didn't show up. When he finally called me back 1.5 hours later he said he had stopped by earlier in the day and we weren't home. Uh yeah. Because we work, and we had set a specific time when he was coming. He ended up coming out after some huffing and puffing, and then every thing we told him we would like done he whined about. He is a contractor, isn't he supposed to do the work we want, and then we pay him? It was very odd. I doubt we will ever hear from him again. At least I hope not. No way would I let him work on my house. Oh well. We really liked the other guy and can't wait to hear his estimate.
We did end up buying a washer. The heavy duty, basic Whirlpool model. It had 4.5 star reviews out of close to 7,000 so it seems like a good choice. We specifically looked for one with knobs rather than buttons. So far I am REALLY happy with it. It cleans so much better, wastes less water, and no stinky smell. Only had to come up with $200 after my bonus, so it seems like a steal. Especially if we can sell our old one in the yard sale this weekend. .
I bought the last of the boards for our downstairs window trim. We cut, sanded, painted, and installed the kitchen window last night. It was a lot of work, but it looks great and every project I do I wonder why it took me years to do it. Only have the bathroom window left and we will be done with windows!
Bathroom has a LOT of projects left. Patch the drywall, re-paint, fix the broken vent, re-caulk tub, paint door and install hardware, and trim window and door.
We cleaned for hours upstairs. We threw away at least a dozen black trash bags worth of stuff! It feels great. Everything we kept was put in tubs and stacked. One room left upstairs to clean.
Everything we get done it one step closer to a finished house.
Work is busy and I'm tired but so far this week is going much better!
We FINALLY have a construction company coming out to give us an estimate about the addition. We are so excited. Wish we luck that it stays within our budget!
Now that the goat craziness is over I can focus more on continuing home projects, and hopefully relax and spend more time with family and friends.
I sent a test in for the sick goat and am awaiting results. Fingers crossed that it is nothing serious or I will be devastated. Vet was optimistic, but don't want to count on anything until the test comes back clean. May not have results until next Friday unfortunately.
Whew! What a whirlwind weekend.
Thursday - Goats to the vet for health check
Friday - Work a half day then drive all evening to goat show
Saturday & Sunday - At goat show, arrived home after 11.30pm on Sunday
Monday - Drive goat I borrowed 9 hours back home
Tuesday - Wake up and take different goat to the vet
Now I'm back at work, and I'm tired. Have a ton of work from both jobs to do. We did very well at the show.
While I was gone our plumbing backed up, but husband managed to take it all apart and get it going again. Thank goodness.
He also took apart the washer, and worked on his car. And both are working again, for now. What good news!
We will still probably keep saving and purchase a washer or stove soon. Just because I know they are going to go out sooner rather than later. But at least we don't have to rush quite as much. I'll be keeping my eye on the Labor Day sale ads and see if we can get a bargain.
In a turn of events yesterday, when I opened the mail I received a $200 random bonus from my boss.
So now we have $200 to put towards a new washer. Things always have a way of working out.
So after the shocking hospital bill yesterday. (Which I think is actually more of receipt and we don't actually owe, thank goodness) Not 100% sure yet.
The washer broke, dead, gone.
The stove has been dying for several months now, but I think it's finally about to the end. I had to wiggle and beat it for several minutes to turn on the oven yesterday. (Stove still works.)
Husband and I had been "arguing" over which to purchase first. A new stove or a new washer. He wanted a new washer because this one had been staining clothes and ruining them. I would have to run it several times to get something clean, and there was always a smell even after cleaning it several times. Well it looks like it is decided for us.
In addition, husband's power steering in his 21 year old vehicle has gone out while driving 3 times in the last two days. Super scary and unsafe. I think it is really time to call it quits and get a new jeep.
So that means we are looking for a new car, a new washer, and a new stove. (I'm hoping I can go without an oven for a bit to delay that purchase.)
Also my timing belt is due to be changed in the next 2,000 miles on my car. Which will be over $500. Yikes!
Really. Yesterday I finally get caught up for the first time in months, and all this happens in one day. It's almost funny... But not quite.
This is on top of my very favorite pet being really sick. So I am stressed and worried to the max. I'm trying to keep calm, but I'm not good at it. I didn't get more than an hour or two of sleep last night.
Ugh. I know it will be okay though. We can cash flow a washer, and will take out a temporary loan for a car. Thankfully we are not living check to check. So while this is an inconvenience, it's not the end of the world.
Thanks guys for all the encouragement about my burnout!
I just never seem to find time to be able to do the things I want to do or need to do, like clean the house and spend time with my animals. Working gets overwhelming and I feel like I will never be able to get caught up on everything else.
Financial things have been at a stand still. :/ No progress in a month. But it's okay because we didn't lose progress either. Just had to cash flow a lot of expenses like the last of the vet bills, the vacation, another bridal dress, etc. I know it happens. We've got that all weeded through now, so I'm hoping that means we can start moving forward on the big goals.
I'm still torn between if I should finish the Roth first or if I should pay down the LOC. I may just do a little of both. I had planned on doing the Roth first just to make sure it is finished by tax season since we get the savers credit. But that LOC is really starting to bug me and I want it gone.
Still feeling the burnout blues. The more I think about how it will be years before I am able to work less the more depressing it gets. :/
Husband is having a hard time at his job too. In the past week or so nearly everyone he is friends with quit for various reasons. He's suddenly lonely and also feeling like it's a dead end job. It pays pretty good, but it's not fulfilling work. Jobs are so limited where we live though, he can't seem to find anything he is interested in. He says he wants his job to make a difference, or help people.
I know everyone gets tired of working occasionally, but It's hard right now. Especially since it is hitting both of us at the same time. Ugh.
Mortgage payment hit, bringing the total down to $46,593.39.
That seems like a huge amount that will never be paid and I'll be a slave to the work force forever.
How do you guys get through burnout?
This week has been a whirlwind. My office boss came back from a two week vacation, so had a huge list of stuff to be done.
My web design boss has a TON of work for me right now as well, all on a short time frame.
Besides double my workload, it's also VBS week at church. Which both husband and I volunteered for. So we have literately been going there 15 minutes after we get off work, and not getting home until 9pm every day this week. Tonight is the last night, thank goodness. We've had about 24 kids in our class, and they are wild.
I've had terrible sinus pressure and headaches for the past several weeks. Well it's finally came to a peak, and now I'm sniffling, sneezing, and sick. Hopefully that means it will clear up soon though.
Tomorrow we have tickets to a play for my birthday, which is Monday. Our house is a disaster, so we'll be spending the rest of the day cleaning, and I'll be catching up on work over my birthday weekend.
I am worn out. I just want a nap. Feeling so behind on work, chores, animals, everything.
I have a more personal question. Is there any good way to discuss/teach finances with a friend?
My husband's best friend is bad with money. His family is bad with money. He was never taught, and I worry he is going to struggle his entire life.
In the past we talked a little about money with him. His credit was bad because of him putting his name on a phone bill with a friend when he was about 16 and his friend stopped paying. Doh. We talked to him about credit cards, and helped him open his first one so he could have some "good credit" history. Telling him how interest works and how he should only use it for regular bills and pay it in full each month. Things seemed to be going well.
To sum things up as best as I can. He makes about $30,000 a year, and also goes to school full time. He purchased a $12,000 car a little more than a year ago. 1st mistake. In order to save money he moved back in with his parents. That was a major mistake. His parents are super bad with money, can't hold down real jobs, etc. He has online classes and they couldn't pay their bills, so he has to keep paying their electric and internet bills to do his school. Shortly after him moving in with them, they somehow convinced him to let them put close to $5,000 on his credit card. :O With the promise they would pay it back.
He purchased a new laptop last year, financed. Now he just purchased a desktop. He also financed his school. This parents of course could not pay the credit cards, and he couldn’t make the huge payments, so he just took out a personal loan of $8,000 to condense everything. He is $20,000 in debt with not much to show for it. :/
Even scarier is that he recently talked about buying a house. He went to the bank and they approved him for $150,000!!! He literately almost bought a house for that much. (His parents encouraging him of course.) When we asked him about it he couldn’t even tell us the term or the interest rate. Thankfully he changed his mind last minute.
I’m seriously scared for his well being. It’s going to take him years to dig himself out of this debt. He can’t say no to anyone, and I bet his parents are going to continue to have him pay their bills and tack on more debt. He has no idea that this is bad debt, doesn’t understand interest, etc. He just follows whatever the banks and his parents tell him. He is already struggling paying his bills, and I don’t see how he will ever be able to move out of his parents house, get married, etc.
Husband and I joke that we need to sit down with a powerpoint and teach him finances. But seriously. How can we help him? I try to stay out of people's business, but he’s a good guy, and honestly just doesn’t know.
We are back from our trip to the south east coast! We had a good time, and got to see lots of new things. Seriously I don't know how we fit in so much on our trips, but we are pros at making the most out of the time we have.
We left on Saturday and stayed with family that was about halfway that night. Sunday we stopped to drop off goats, and then made it to our destination. The lovely family we stayed with made us some classic seafood boil which you eat with your hands, and then we packed up and headed to the beach for the sunset.
Monday we got an early start, before Charleston was "open" and got to see all the outdoor sights like the battery and waterfront park, we also walked a bit through historic downtown but it was nearly 110 degrees, so we didn't spend as much time as I had hoped for. We caught the first boat tour out to Fort Sumter, and learned some history. Then we went to a breakout game which is super fun. They lock you in a room and you have to find clues and keys to help you escape in under an hour. It was kind of weird because we were with 6 other strangers, but I would definitely do it again. It would be a real blast with friends. We drove across the amazing Ravenel bridge and ate lunch at a resort restaurant overlooking the U.S. Yorktown aircraft carrier. Afterwards we headed back to downtown and stopped at the historic city market. I splurged and bought $50 worth of pralines and goodies for myself and our two families which watched our animals while we were away. They make the most delicious pralines you'll ever buy there. (I don't even usually like pralines!) We got a Christmas ornament which is a tradition for our trips, and they were discounted if you buy 3 so we also got one for each of our mothers. That is the only souvenirs we purchased.
Then we headed back to our hosts and they ordered fried seafood to go (the best ever) I had it last time I was there and it was a special request. Then we headed out to a private ritzy island, where some friends of their owned a house and called in a pass for us. They had a guard house and everything, all gated, very expensive. I think some celebrities live there. So we spent another sunset eating seafood on the beach. Some dolphins swam very close to us while we were swimming.
Tuesday we left for Savannah and had planned on spending the day there. But once we got there and ate lunch we decided it was very crowded, and pretty much the same as Charleston only smaller roads and more people walking. So we went ahead to the park at which I had reserved a camping spot for previously. It was only early afternoon when we got there, and still blistering hot so on a whim we decided to keep driving rather than sit around in the heat. I lost out on the $34 I had paid for camping, but I think it was worth it. Wanting to see new places we took the long way home through Alabama, Mississippi, and Arkansas. Atlanta was a nightmare, and right in rush hour it started pouring rain. Their roads were horrible, with lots of standing water and hydroplaning. I was so terrified I was on the verge of tears. Worst driving I've ever been in. Thankfully my husband is a very cautious and good driver. And did his best to keep me calm.
We drove another 6 hours to a very secluded park in Alabama. We got there after dark, and we had to put up the tent and light a fire for dinner. The park ranger was very nice, and was surprised we had found them. It was such a secluded park that I couldn't even find a review, picture, or phone number online. Just an address, and the entrance road was very very long. Husband and I were joking that this is how a scary movie starts.
Yesterday we finally made it home. All told we spent:
$173.09 on gas
$122.03 on eating out and groceries
$70.62 on candy and gifts
$89.40 on the boat tour and breakout game
$53 on camping
For a total of $508.14! I had originally budgeted $500 before one of my transports dropped out, and I lost $75 last minute. So if you count that money we were only $8 short. Pretty good considering the extra camping costs, and expensive candy.
I would highly recommend Charleston. The people there are so friendly, and it is one of the most beautiful cities in the US.
Still doing the cash flow juggle.
Thankfully at this moment I only owe $200 on the credit cards. I was hoping to be at $0 before the trip, but it's not going to happen. Not due until September anyway so it doesn't really matter. Still have to pay for the cat spay on Thursday. That will be around $100. We kept my husband's favorite kitten and found a good home for the others. So we are now a 4 cat household. Up from our original 2, but down from our recent 6.
I did add a new expense. I had to purchase a new phone. :/ Mine has been deteriorating for months. First it started randomly shutting off, then it started dropping calls, maps stopped, and then it would take 12 hours to send a text message. It was extremely frustrating, and I knew the end was coming.
We made the decision to go ahead and purchase a new one before the trip since we were traveling across country, and the phone is our sole source of GPS. We didn't want to get lost when my phone died on us. Or not be able to call for help if something happens. My phone even shut off twice when they were trying to switch me to the new phone, so it really was getting to be unusable.
I have to pay full retail price with my phone company. So it was quite expensive, I am appalled and embarrassed at the price, especially since in the past you would get a new free phone every 2 years. Now the monthly bill is cheaper, but you are responsible for the phone purchase. It cost almost as much as my husband's laptop.
Oh well. I sprung for the good one. The price difference wasn't much different for it or a cheapo one, and I figured I might as well get what I want since I do use my phone constantly. I take really good care of them, and they last a long time, so over multiple years it doesn't seem like as much.
They want you to just make payments every month (0% interest), but I went ahead and put down a $200 payment because I'd rather pay up front and avoid monthly bills. The lady said no one EVER does that. Weird. I couldn't pay for the entire amount because of being squeezed from the trip. But I plan on saving up and paying it off in the next couple months. In the mean time I have to pay $20 a month on it. Which is fine since my bill actually just dropped $15 a month or two ago. So really only an additional $5 out of the budget. Not a big deal in the scheme of life, and it certainly is an upgrade. Honestly I am just thrilled that I can send texts again!
My birthday is coming up, and I am super excited this year. I FINALLY convinced my husband and family to buy me practical things I actually need/want rather than junk that is "more fun." I am getting a new bed and sheets. Just what I want! I also wanted a vacuum, but the price went up. So I have been promised it for Christmas. haha. Not many women can honestly say they want a new vacuum and bed frame for holidays! I am not materialist at all, and I prefer usable things that will improve my quality of life. A comfortable bed, and a way to suck up cat hair sounds pretty good to me.
I still haven't been able to find a single construction company to come out and give us even as estimate.
Which is quite depressing... Really I should keep trying and keep calling, but I'm nearly burn out about the entire situation. Part of me feels like it's time to take a step back and just wait another year.
My car has been having problems again. Also it's time to replace the timing belt as normal maintenance which I was quoted around $800 last year when I inquired.
Husband's car is very old, and it's only a matter of time before it's unfix-able. Both of us are feeling car strained. The conversation of purchasing nused cars and forgoing the remodel for now, has come up several times. It's a very real possibility that both our cars could break down at the same time, and we would be left scrambling for something. We'd like to avoid that and take our time finding a good deal, and selling ours while they still have any value.
Or we could just take a year off from big expenses, pay off the LOC, save, and purchase some smaller quality of life things like some new appliances or a couch. We are squeaking by on 20+ year old appliances, which are quickly deteriorating. For example my stove's screen is going out and I have to beat on it to see the oven temperature, set the timer, etc.
I'm worried if we decide to purchase a car then our stove or washing machine will go out, or if we get the remodel then our car(s) will break down. Ugh. I keep going back and forth, and second guessing myself. How do you ever decide what to focus on?
Busy, busy, busy, around here. We got the roof shingled, and the ridge cap on. All that is left is the headwall flashing, and some roofing caulk in a few places.
Going to fill up the trailer for the dump this weekend, and continue organizing the upstairs. I'm thinking one trip isn't going to be enough... Also have to clean out the goat house and barn again.
It's nice to see some big noticeable projects get done on the house.
Web design is in full steam ahead mode. Which is great, but also exhausting. Really slacking on stuff at home like washing dishes and laundry. lol.
Life is a crazy mess, but good.
Worked on the roof yesterday, got the old shingles off, and the ice shield and tar paper put down. . This evening we are shingling. We ran into a problem though. We couldn't get the very old rusty, holey, metal flashing off. Any ideas? It's really nailed into the walls (under the siding), not the roof like it's supposed to be. And we can't seem to get it off without taking off the siding. Which is old aluminum, and won't come off without completely ruining it.
If we can't get it off we are probably going to just have to cut it with tin snips as close to the house as possible and try to slide the new flashing up under it. Will that cause problems in the future? When we eventually get the remodel the siding will be replaced and we can removed the old flashing, but in the mean time I don't want to have the entire bottom row of siding ripped out and missing.
I got a $5 an hour raise with the web design job! That will certainly help goals get completed, and two more goat kids are getting picked up next week.
Husband is getting really attached to the kittens and is already pleading to keep ALL of them. Oh my goodness we don't need 6 cats. Ugh. We'll have to wait and see what happens. It's going to be hard letting the little boogers go, I knew it would be. Which is why I didn't want kittens in the first place. If we can find them good homes it won't be so bad. But I care too much to just let them go to anyone. I can't understand people who trade and constantly sell/buy pets. I get way too emotionally invested, and once an animal comes here it most likely will never leave. With the exception of the goat kids. Which is hard enough, and I carefully screen all buyers and keep in contact.
All animals deserve love and respect. If I go in the goat pen I literately get mobbed by over a dozen adult goats trying to climb in my lap and fighting for my attention and two hands. My husband was laughing so hard at me yesterday because I sat down and all these 100+ pound animals were clamoring, rubbing, licking, nibbling, and pushing for hugs and kisses, nearly squishing me in the process. They are very intelligent and each have their own quirks, habits, and personalities. I've spent so much time with them that I can recognize their different voices from the house. Yet to most people they are just livestock.
I am so frustrated. We have been wanting to a do home addition for 4 years now. We kept putting it off until we were in a better financial spot, and decided this would be the year. At the beginning of the year I started calling around to contractors and construction companies trying to find someone to do it.
I was only able to get one company to come out and do an inspection for an estimate. Which was okay, they were my favorite anyway. Well they have put me off for months and I had to keep checking back. Yesterday I called again and they said they were too busy and were no longer interested.
Well that stinks. We had hoped to do it this summer, and now I wasted all this time waiting on them. I wish they hadn't led me on.
So I started calling more companies again. I called sixteen... SIXTEEN companies yesterday. No one was interested. No one wants to do home addition, only new construction, or everyone is too busy. :/
I even called the local hardware stores to ask for names and numbers. Then one of my friends messaged me that that they are getting a remodel done, and gave me their person's number. That was nice of them, but it made me feel jealous.
To back track, I've talked about her before, this friend was always low income and we got along great because we were both frugal and did cheap fun activities. Then in the past year she met and married her husband. Who is very wealthy. My frugal friend quickly turned completely opposite. She's living in a very nice house, driving new cars, etc. She is super sweet, but has been extremely busy and hasn't had much to do with me since she met this guy. I've invited her her to do things with me several times and she always turns me down or will say yes and then back out at the last minute. I know it's not intentional, but I just don't feel like I'm good enough anymore.
Add on that my other best friend moved away, and I am feeling rather lonely. I have no one that I can call up and go to the movies or out to lunch with. All of my friends have finished college and moved away, and are being successful in their new jobs. I'm the only one still driving an old car, and living in a half finished house. Sometimes it's hard not to feel jealous.
Anyway, she told me they are getting a 1,200 sq foot addition, with a 3 car garage. They already have a 4 car garage, and a big 4 bedroom house. It's just the two of them.
We've been waiting, planning, and looking forward to this small addition for years. And it's just disheartening that they are getting one 3 times bigger than ours, and have already started on it. I can't even get a builder to call me back. Ugh.
I'll try recalling a few people who didn't answer. But it's not looking promising that a remodel will happen this year.
We tried to push ourselves to be productive this weekend and overall we were. I got the goat house and barn cleaned out, and sold a kid. We cleaned the house, mowed the grass, tidied outside, and even started cleaning out the boxes of junk that have been upstairs since we got married... Nearly 4 years ago.
Right now all three upstairs bedrooms are full of boxes of our old kid stuff, gifts/junk people gave us when we got married, random items we have no idea how they got there, and lots of building supplies, drywall, boards, etc.
Everything needs gone through, sorted, trashed, and organized. So it's a very large job.
It was kind of fun going through our old childhood things and sharing memories with each other. We moved everything into rubbermaid tubs to prevent future damage from the sun, mice, water, etc. We threw away two large trash bags worth of stuff, and only got about half way through one room. (The worst room)
Smidge the runt kitten is doing a lot better. I started using the sponge like several of you suggested, and it worked great! Thanks! After a couple days he stopped accepting the goat milk I was giving him, and seems to be eating well from mama now.
We are really fighting with the runt kitten to get it to survive. It seems... dumb. It wants to eat, but it can't seem to latch on correctly. It sucks in the wrong spot, or keeps letting go. It also won't latch onto a bottle. So I've been syringe feeding it. It is skin and bones, poor thing. It seems to be a little perkier today, so hoping it will eventually become strong enough to eat on it's own or take a bottle. My husband has named it Smidge.
Last night he nonchalantly said, "It is sure going to be sad to give away Smidge..." I said "NO, don't even think about it!" "Aww. But when you bottle feed you get attached to it."
Sigh. We do not need ANOTHER cat. 3 is enough. I told him if he wants to keep it then we have to find a home for Scrump. Which he doesn't want to do either. And I thought I was the animal enabler. lol.
My favorite goat had a bad hoof problem. I treated it for weeks as per vet instructions, but it wasn't healing properly, so I finally insisted and took her to the vet yesterday. They did minor surgery on it, and she already seems to be feeling better. Thank goodness. I was expecting to spend a couple hundred dollars, but was shocked when the bill was only $50. And that included a full bottle of antibiotic, and a jar of medicine which I can use later. Well worth it!
Got an appointment for the other dog to get her shots on Thursday, just in time to still get the discount. Then hopefully I will be done with vet bills for a while! At least until I have to take Scrump in and get her fixed. Ugh.
Another goat will be going home this weekend. Rather than put the money in the animal fund, I will probably use it to cover some of the vet costs from the past month. That is what the animal fund is for anyway. I still have 6 more kids left to be paid for and picked up, which will more than finish out the animal fund.
These animals are killing me this month. But I have been pretty fortunate really, not had many vet bills at all in several years besides the heart worm treatment, and regular vaccinations. Which is amazing considering I have over 30 pets.
I joke that my spending budget is 90% animals, and 10% junk food... That's probably pretty accurate. lol.
I got horribly sick again as an after effect of my sickness earlier in the year. I had still not coughed up any of the pneumonia so I knew it was only a matter of time. Well that time came.
Since Saturday I've been coughing or puking almost completely non stop. Severe pain in my lung, fevers, chills, sweats, and of course every muscle in tired and sore from coughing. No sleep to be had for several days for either of us. I had a round of antibiotics on hand because they expected me to get sick again, and I took them as soon as I felt myself going down hill on Saturday. I was barely able to avoid going back into the hospital.
If that wasn't enough, husband had some weird stomach pains which made him feel poorly, and we nearly had to take him to the hospital, but he is feeling better so we will wait and see. We think it is probably a stress ulcer, because he worries deeply about me, and his symptoms started a couple days after mine.
I'm happy to say that last night was the first night that I didn't puke, and we finally got some sleep. So I think I'm past the worst of it. Now that some of that junk is out of there, hopefully I can heal and feel better.
I am completely wiped out though. My throat is so sore and irritated from coughing that I lost my voice. And I haven't eaten much of anything since Friday so I've lost about 5 pounds.
I only worked a couple hours this week, but I don't care.
As a side note, the cats are all getting along pretty well now. But unfortunately I think the little kitten is pregnant. Hard to believe since she was SO thin when I got her, but her belly has ballooned up pretty big. Arg. So it looks like I will be finding homes for kittens. Poor thing is so tiny, hopefully she only has a couple in there.
Husband and I have been toying around with the idea of starting a blog.
I'm a web designer, and he is a photography enthusiast. Seems like a good fit. We are remodeling a house, and live on a farm. So we have content.
But I think I am mostly worried about remaining partly anonymous.
I already have a successful goat business and website, with my contact information on it. If I make a blog which ties to that, I worry about peopling linking this savingadvice blog to the new blog, or to my goat business. I'm not sure if I am comfortable with everyone knowing my name, address, income, etc. How can I prevent this? I'm not sure how much should be kept private.
I'd love to share the new blog with you guys. But at the same time. I feel like I don't want this more private area of my life attached to my name, etc. Thoughts? Ideas on how I should go about this?
My boss gave me a $100 bonus for being a hard worker.
I've figured out that on Friday's payday I will be able to pay off the credit cards and have about $200 to send to the computer. Hurray! It seems like forever since I've been able to put money towards something besides our monthly bills.
We have also been productive around the house. The vegetable garden and the flower garden are both done, our closet trim is ready to hang today, and we deep cleaned the bedroom and living room.
We now have a new cat. Someone dumped a very very thin kitten off at my parents. I didn't really need another cat, but she is so sweet, and I felt so bad for her. She obviously needs food and care. Poor thing has ate and ate and ate since I've brought her home. She purs very loudly every time you touch her or feed her. It's so cute compared to my grumpy Momo.
She seems to be settling in well. But the other two cats are not at all happy about the new addition. Especially since she has taken over the outdoor cat's bed. lol.
We named her Zazzles, or "Zazzy." Which is from The Big Bang Theory. She is grey with a white face and feet. My husband is so good about enabling my animal habit. Within reason of course. He didn't even put up a fight, he just rolled his eyes when I asked and said "bring her over." lol.
Unfortunately she is long haired. I'm about at my wits end with brushing long haired cats. I've never had so much grooming to do. The two current cats rough house and play so much that they tangle their hair up in giant knots. I am brushing and cutting out mats daily. It's a constant battle with the indoor cat to keep fur off everything. Yuck. My old short haired cat didn't shed half as much. I have all hard wood floors and I still can't keep the hair down, I can't even imagine how it would be with carpet.
I will be scheduling an appointment to get her spayed ASAP and vaccinated. But I want to get her a little healthier before surgery, plus she is very small yet. I'll go ahead and pick up some wormer for her, and the other cats.
Momo the ragdoll has been acting off the last few days. He has a rare gum disease which hurts so I take him to get steroid shots every few months. He hasn't been eating well lately, so I was worried he is sick again but it hasn't been that long since the last shot. It's best to delay it as long as possible since he is so young and long term steroids can cause permanent damage. I looked at his gums and they don't look that bad right now. I am wondering if he is just stressed because of the new cat. I will keep a close eye on him for a couple days before I decide if he needs to go in or not. The vet is swamped right now with only one vet, and very few workers.
Well it finally happened. I have started receiving medical bills for my long stay in the hospital in January.
My mom had graciously agreed to pay all the bills for me. She just wanted me to get better, and not worry about the money issues.
But in the past week we have already received over $1,200 in bills. And the doctor hasn't sent his bill yet.
Originally we thought I wouldn't have much to pay, because in-patient care is sometimes covered 100%.
I have good insurance, with a deductible of only $635. So I'm not sure why the amount is so much. We will have to look into it some more. But I don't feel comfortable letting my mom pay it all, so it's definitely going to affect our budget. Just not sure how much yet.
Garden boxes were filled in, but it's been getting below freezing at night, and it has been raining all day yesterday, last night, and still raining today. Planting will have to wait a little while longer. Until then the plants will do fine in our sun room.
I'm so excited! The construction company came out to look at the house and create a bid for our addition we've been wanting to do for years.
Of course they are going to take a few weeks for the actual numbers, but they gave me a rough estimate based on their other jobs of $105ish a sq foot. Or $45,000 completely finished!
We are wanting to shoot for $35,000. But they were so nice, and will let us DIY anything we want to do. Saving us a considerable amount of money. A lot of general contractors won't let you work in "their space" but these guys said they will do or let us do anything we want. So I can hire out my own electrician (who is a friend and gives me a discount), and husband and I can paint, hang insulation, etc.
Of course I don't want to get too excited until I see the real contract.
I don't even mind if we just have to get the shell put up, and then we can save and pay cash for finishing the interior if we need to. We were just praying that the exterior would be under $35k.
I can't believe this may actually become a reality this year.
We got husband's profit sharing statement from his work. They contributed $3,855 to his account this year! Making his total $6,409 at 40% vested. Sweet! Free money.
I paid the house payment bringing our mortgage down to $47,280.96.
I got my federal tax refund and sent the $100 to the Roth.
Lots of little progress on our goals.
Baby goats are being born. The weather is warm and we are gearing up to start working on projects again.
I finally submitted my taxes. At the last minute I decided to input a $1,000 for husband's Roth, so I would get back $100 for the savers credit. I'll have to make sure to send the money to his account before the April deadline. I'll definitely send the $100 from the taxes, and there is an extra paycheck coming up next month so I'll send $350 then. Just have to come up with another $450 which should be easy enough.
Should know about the new job within the next day or two.
Really feeling the itch to get projects done, or some deep cleaning. But I just don't even know where to start. I'm sick of our house looking unfinished and dirty. No matter how much cleaning I do, it still looks yucky with the old scratched floors and missing trim. I so want it to be finished this year, but the amount of money to complete just seems impossible.
Design work is picking up, and I've got a couple vet checks left. Really going to try to use my paychecks wisely to knock out as much debt as I can. I've been very good about spending lately except the occasional fast food or snack.
Husband actually had extra money left in his paycheck this month after bills, spending, and paying his credit card off. I can't remember the last time we had a positive balance. I never do because every single dollar I have (besides my buffer of course) gets put towards something on payday. I don't leave extra money sitting in my account, it instantly gets sent to savings or debt.
I put in my two weeks notice today at the vet.
I am sad for my co-workers, but happy to soon be rid of the stress. My last day will be the 25th which is great because I have goats due starting on the 29th and now I will get to be home.
My old/new job interview is Thursday. I'm still not sure how I completely feel about going back but I am cautiously hopeful that it will be better.
Almost caught back up from the low paychecks. Another $350 to go before I can earnestly start working towards my goals again.
Really need to submit my taxes, but I'm only getting $100 back and it just depresses me.
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