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Update on Neighbor

January 22nd, 2014 at 07:37 am

Well when he stopped at my moms house, she managed to ask his name. She then googled him, and we have his phone number. She tried to call him but his wife answered and said he was gone.

I have not called the sheriffs office yet or AC. Although I do have a friend who works there, so I may ask his opinion.

I am trying to remain calm and civil, it is an 80 year old guy, and he is our neighbor. I really do not want a life long dispute. But really he needs to mind his own business.

I posted a no trespassing sign, and if he comes here again or makes anymore threats he will be DONE.

I wanted to call him last night, but husband is furious. He feels just as violated as me, and is saying how if he comes here again he is going to fire some warning shots in the air. Husband will not let me call him. He says if the guy is going to make threats, he needs to come say it to our face. We should not have to hunt him down.

My mom came out and rigged it up so the horse can go into the barn if he wants to. He has not been in there once yet, and husband wants him put back. (The horse is basically fenced off in the yard and pooping everywhere.)

My animals are well cared for. I have a 20 pound cat for goodness sakes, and a 200 pound pet pig. No one can say my animals are starving... lol. If anything they are overweight. This is all just ridiculous. I am appalled that someone would think I mistreat my animals. It is so the opposite of that.

I have decided to not let it bother me. Mom gave him my phone number, so he has no reason to not contact me if he wants to make empty threats again. We will be taking action against him if he does something again.

Thanks for the support guys!

7 Responses to “Update on Neighbor”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    When you mentioned the neighbor's age, I wondered about some sort of dementia? Of course, I don't want to make it seem that should be the explanation, but it is always a possibility.

  2. Petunia 100 Says:

    I had the same thought, CCF. What he is done is a violation of your space, and I understand why you are upset. In your situation, I think I would try to keep in mind that he may genuinely mean well, even though his actions are inappropriate.

  3. klarose Says:

    I am sure he does mean well. Which is why I am trying not to do anything too drastic. It is just a burden and stress on me to worry about if he is going to be snooping around again, or telling people I mistreat my animals.

    Right now I will continue watching and waiting.

  4. Another Reader Says:

    In your shoes, I would be concerned about an 80 year-old neighbor. It sounds like your folks have lived in the area for awhile, as the neighbor had no trouble figuring out who they were and how to find them. Maybe your folks could inquire about him and his family from people they know in the area. It would be helpful to know if he has a wife or if there are kids nearby. If he is out on property by himself with no family or if the family is far away, he may be sliding into health issues that are going unnoticed. If there is no family, and he continues to behave in a bizarre manner, a call to your county's Social Service agency or Sheriff's Office for a welfare check might be in order.

    It has been said that honey catches more flies than vinegar. If I felt safe doing it (maybe with a bit more information about this guy from people that know him), I might bake some cookies and drop by his house with your husband. It never hurts to get to know your neighbors and you might be able to disarm his fears and suspicions.

  5. creditcardfree Says:

    OP, did mention his wife. I'm not saying he DOES have health issues, but it may be something to consider as you are dealing with him. I wonder if the wife knows of his dealings with you and his parents.

  6. klarose Says:

    He went to church a long time ago with my parents-in-law. He has a wife, and I believe he is doing quite well and getting around quite well. I do not think he has any physical or mental problems that are abnormal for a person his age.

    I have baked cookies and such for the other neighbors. Who are also older and quite nice. Call me prideful or rude, but I have no want to go be friendly to a guy who is casting threats and is too cowardly to come tell me to my face, or even call me. No matter his age.

    I am willing to talk to him and get it resolved, but I am not going to go out of my way to be friendly.

  7. klarose Says:

    His wife does know. She is who answered the phone when my mother called them to give him my number.

    Mother in law says he was always nice to her but quiet. She did say that her parents thought that he was an odd duck, so she tried to stay away from him for the most part.

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